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How to chat on Messenger without being friends

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Having the need to get in touch with a person whose phone number or email address you don’t know, you thought about looking for them on Facebook. Your searches were successful but, before you post your message on Messenger, the messaging platform of the famous social network, you would like to be sure that you can chat with this person without necessarily adding them to your friends.

If things are exactly as I described them and, therefore, you are wondering how to chat on Messenger without being friends, let me explain how to succeed in your intent. If you dedicate a few minutes of your time to me, I can in fact show you the detailed procedure both to send a new message to a user you have not added on Facebook, and to view the messages of people who have contacted you without sending you a friend request.

First, however, it will be my job to provide you with the necessary information to check the privacy settings of your Facebook account, in order to be sure that you can receive messages from all users of the social network, including those who are not among your friends. How do you say? Is that exactly what you wanted to know? Well, then let’s not dwell further and see how to proceed. Find everything explained below. Happy reading and good luck for everything!

Can you use Messenger without being friends on Facebook?

Before we get to the heart of this tutorial and explain yourself how to chat on Messenger without being friends let me give you some preliminary information in this regard.

First of all, I would like to immediately point out that you can use Messenger without being friends on Facebook. In fact, although on the famous social network it is possible to customize the privacy settings in order to prevent being found by other people via email address and / or telephone number, there is no option to avoid being tracked by name.

Also, you should know that it is possible to lock Facebook and prevent strangers from sending us a friend request, but it is not allowed to disable the option to be contacted by private message. This means that anyone can be found on Facebook by their name and be contacted privately by other people registered on the famous social network.

Keep in mind, however, that by accessing the settings of your Facebook account you can customize the options related to Messenger and choose whether to receive messages sent by people who are not part of your friends. directly in chat or in section Message requests.

You can also choose the option for do not receive any message requests: in this case, those who wish to contact us privately will continue to see the option to send a new message, which, however, will not be delivered either in chat or between message requests. Is everything clear so far? Well, then let’s take action.

How to chat on Messenger without being friends from the app

Messenger

Before you can chat on Messenger without being friends from the app, I recommend that you check the privacy settings of your Facebook account and make sure you can also receive messages from users who are not part of your friends.

To proceed, take your smartphone or tablet, start the Messenger app for Android (also available on alternative stores, for devices without Google services) or iOS / iPadOS and, if you haven’t done so yet, log in with your Facebook account. Then, tap yours photo, at the top left, select the option Privacy and press on the item Sending messages.

In the new screen that appears, tap on the option People who have your phone number and put the check mark next to one of the options available between Chat And Message requests, so you can receive messages from people who can find you on Facebook via your phone number. By choosing the option instead Do not receive requests, messages sent by this type of user will not be delivered.

Once this is done, repeat the procedure also for the people with whom you have at least one friendship in common (Friends of friends on Facebook) and for all other users (Others on Facebook). In the latter case, you cannot choose to receive messages directly in chat.

You are now ready to chat with Facebook users even without being friends. To read any new messages, access the section Chat Messenger, by pressing on the relevant item located in the bottom menu, and select the conversation of your interest, in order to view the messages received.

If, on the other hand, you’ve adjusted your account so that new messages are delivered in the form of message request, press on yours photo, at the top left, select the option Message requests from the menu that is proposed to you and, in the section You may know, access the chat of your interest.

In some cases, messages received from non-friends may be tagged as spam and delivered to the section Spam of Messenger. In this case, on the screen Message requests, select the tab Spam and tap on name of the user who contacted you, in order to read the new messages received.

To reply and continue the conversation, enter your message in the field Aa, at the bottom, and click on thepaper airplane, to send it. Keep in mind that if you reply to a message delivered as a message request, the user who contacted you will also be able to make calls and video calls and view some information, such as your activity status (i.e. if you are online) and when you have read the messages .

Please note that if you do not wish to continue the conversation, for all messages received from strangers and which have been delivered in the section Message requests, you can choose to delete the chat by pressing the button Delete twice in a row or block the user who wrote to you by tapping on the option Block. In the latter case, you can choose whether to block only messages and calls or whether to block the user on Facebook.

Messenger

If, on the other hand, you want to start a conversation with a non-friend on Facebook, start Messenger, tap on the icon pencil, at the top right, enter the name of the person you wish to contact in the field TO: displayed at the top and tap on it in the search results that appear on the screen.

At this point, enter yours message in the appropriate field and press the icon ofpaper airplane to send it. Please note that, depending on the privacy settings of the user contacted, the message may not be delivered, as I explained to you in the previous lines of this guide.

How to chat on Messenger without being a computer friend

Messenger

If you prefer chat on Messenger without being a computer friend, linked to the Facebook main page and, if you haven’t already, log into your account. Once this is done, click on the icon arrow pointing down and select the options Settings and privacy And Settings from the opened menu.

In the new screen that appears, tap on the item Privacy present in the sidebar on the left, locate the section How you receive message requests and click on the button Edit related to options People who have your phone number, Friends of friends on Facebook And Others on Facebook, in order to check the privacy settings relating to received messages.

In particular, if you also want to be contacted by people who are not part of your friends, make sure that the option is not selected Do not receive requests, as the messages would not be delivered.

Once this is done, you can view the new messages received by clicking on the icon speech bubble located in the top menu and accessing the conversation of your interest. You can also click on the option See them all on Messenger which allows you to see all chats directly on Messenger.

To also view the messages delivered in the section Message requests, press the icon of three dots, select the option Message requests from the menu that is proposed to you and press on name of the user who contacted you. On this screen, by clicking on the item See Spam, you can also view any chats that Messenger has tagged as spam.

At this point, you can continue the conversation by entering yours message in the appropriate field and clicking on thepaper airplane (or on the key Enter keyboard). After replying, you should know that the user who contacted you will also be able to make calls and video calls and view information such as your activity status and message reading notification.

By clicking on the option instead I don’t want to receive messages from [nome utente], you can either simply delete the chat (Delete chat) than to prevent this person from contacting you again (Block and then Block messages and calls).

How do you say? Do you want to start chatting with a user who is not part of your friends? If so, click the pencil, at the bottom right, enter the name of the person to contact in the field TO: and, in the search results, click on first name of the user of your interest. Once this is done, enter your message in the field Aa and press the icon ofpaper airplane (or the key Enter keyboard) to send it.

Alternatively, click on the speech bubble, at the top right, select the option See them all on Messenger from the opened menu and, in the new screen displayed, enter the name of the person to contact in the field Search on Messenger. Then press on first name of the user to whom you want to send a new message, enter it in the field Aa displayed below and press the button Enter keyboard to send it.

Please note that if you have downloaded the Messenger app for Windows and macOS, it is not possible to change the privacy settings (you will be redirected to the Facebook site), while the procedure for viewing received messages and sending new ones is identical to what you I have just indicated to do it via browser: the only difference is that to access the Received messages section you will have to click on yours photo, top left, and then on the item Messages received. To find out more, I leave you to my guide on how Messenger works.